How do you slowly learn the sophistication of human feelings?
1. Things don't have to be done beautifully, but words must be said beautifully.
It's like if you go to the store to buy food, if the boss says to the master inside, add some meat to this little brother's long, are you very happy in your heart, thinking about coming here to eat next time.
But in fact, the chef in the kitchen didn't really add longing meat to you, and the boss didn't let him add longing meat, but you still have a good impression of this shop and the owner.
2. When others say bad things about you behind their backs, don't say bad things about them in order to fight back, which will only make others think that you are the same kind of person as him.
You can pretend to compliment him and approve of him inadvertently. After a long time, others will know the difference between you and him in their hearts, and naturally no one will believe his words.
3. The key point to be able to quickly establish a good impression in the hearts of others is to learn to buy water. Spend the least amount of money to achieve the best results. The first time you meet someone else, you buy two cups of milk tea and bring them over, and you immediately close the distance.
There are renovation workers in the house, and you buy a bottle of water for each of them. They will give you a finer repair, and they will not pit you.
4. When others praise you, you must learn to transfer this praise to him, so that you can not only be recognized, but also not attract the jealousy of others.
For example, once Huang Bo was on Lu Yu's show, Lu Yu said, "You are very popular now!" Huang Bo replied directly, "No, you can sit here and chat with Lu Yu" Everyone was happy all of a sudden.
5. Don't meddle casually in the affairs of relatives fren buying a house or a car, and don't meddle in fren love and marriage. When they ask you for advice, it's best not to give it casually.
Both of these things are life events, once they listen to your advice. It's fine if it turns out, but if something goes wrong, they'll put all the blame on you.
6. If you lose your temper with someone because of a bad mood and you want to apologize afterwards, don't just say "I'm sorry, it's me who was unreasonable." ”
Saying this will give others the impression that you are unreasonable, and they will also linger on what you just did, and you can say, thank you for your understanding. Others will think that you understand him, they will think that you can understand him, and they will not be so angry with you.
7. You have to learn to make a fortune in silence. High-profile people will ruin themselves one day, calm down, don't show off your wealth and achievements k, it seems that some people tout, in fact, their hearts are full of jealousy and resentment, and truly wise people have long turned themselves into silent mode.
8. Don't try to change anyone, and don't expect the people around you to change because of you, they will only change automatically because of your pocket. The world of adults is a criterion, in the face of interests, the villain first and then the gentleman.
9. Don't be a person who is too ashamed, the strong are lonely, there is no shame, no matter what others think or say, you can be at ease.
And what about the poor? They care too much about what others think of them, and others say that they can't eat well or sleep well.
10. Before you make money, don't make fren with those who eat, drink and have fun, when you are young, you will be greedy for pleasure, and you will definitely have the tribulation of old age as a price to pay. Only the weak need fren, and the strong do not need them at all.
11. If you borrow someone else's money, you must pay it back on time, if you can't pay it back once, you will divide it into long times, if you don't have money, you long contact the other party, k don't ignore the other party because of guilt, it is easy to be understood as a peace of mind and ignore it.
12. Don't easily reveal the part of your heart that you don't want to show, and the fren who is easily obtained by sympathy may not be able to look up to you in your heart.
13. You must know what is servile and courteous, what is flattery and praise others, you must understand that meanness and humor are two different things, and open-mouthed and frank are two different things.
Uneducated and casual are two different things, see through and don't say it, know people without judging people, and know reason without arguing.
14. Learn to save money and restrain your desires, you never know when you will need it.
15. This society is very realistic: there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no good wife in a poor family for a long time. There is money to travel all over the world, but it is difficult to move an inch without money.
16. When someone talks about others, you'd better not interject, and when you hear a sensitive topic, you have to excuse yourself and walk away, otherwise it will be spread around, and people will think it's what you said.
17. When you have the ability to make money, don't mess around, don't be lazy, long make money, long save some money, you won't be so hard in middle age, and your old age will not be miserable.
18. Don't pay too much long fren, just fren a few, fren too long, except for spending money and wasting time, there is no long big benefit.
19. Showing a sense of superiority is a taboo in interpersonal communication.
20. When you are weak and have no right to speak, express your own opinions less.
21. Don't take the initiative to give advice to others.
22. Respect everyone you meet and don't look down on people.
23. Don't take others too seriously, and don't take others too seriously.
24. Whoever you get along with has to bring some acting skills and a dim sum machine, be true to yourself, handle any kind of relationship well, and say that if it sounds good, you have emotional intelligence and high emotional intelligence.
25. A person who can be in a certain position must have his superiority, no matter how much you hate him long.
26. It's long that worrying about anxiety is actually not so terrible, it's better to take it easy and solve it step by step.
27. Don't always talk to others about your fren long bull, you have to understand that other people's achievements have nothing to do with you.
28. long talk about topics that others are interested in, and you will learn a lot long things.
29. Between friends and fren, helping is love, not helping is duty, don't take other people's kindness to you for granted.
30. The fren circle is your face, don't send negative energy content.
31. When you buy something with your colleagues and call it takeout, you must send a screenshot of the payment details to everyone, you trust me, of course I can rely on it.
32. No matter long good fren, if the other party is in love, you must know how to leave contact!
33. Regardless of school, workplace or society, don't blindly please others against your will, some circles don't belong to you after all, try to do a good job and please yourself, it may be easier to have rich returns.
34. People are changing, friends are flowing, let the one who fren let him go.
35. The highest state of being a human being is: don't be the first bird, don't go with the flow.
36. People you don't like at first sight will most likely not like it, so don't do useless work.
37. It is better to compete with heroes than to judge the merits with fools.
38. You must know how to be grateful, others have helped you, and you must find a way to reciprocate.
39. Learn to be flexible, who to see and what to say.
40. It's okay to give some small favors to colleagues so that they can carry out future work.
41. Trying to remember other people's names will leave a good impression.
42. Don't laugh at people who fail, people who don't do anything are the funniest people.
43. Cherish the advice of your parents, they are the only people in the world who are really good to you.
44. Cherish the person who points out your mistakes, it's very long that no one can do it.
45. Reading longest can cure "foolishness"
46. There are longest ways to become a bull man, not just by mouth.
47. When you are angry, you are unreliable in doing anything.
48. No matter how good the fren is, no matter how close the family is, they are all likely to stay away from themselves, not because the relationship is not good, but because everyone's growth route is different, it is already good to be able to walk with them for a while, don't force the rest.
49. If you don't like a job, you can change it, there is no need to try to stick to a job and make yourself unhappy.
50. What the elders say is not necessarily right, because they are looking at the past world and walking the path of the past.
51. It's very long things are not important, there will be countless troubles in life, look away.
52. Accept that you are an ordinary person, come from an ordinary family, have a stable and ordinary job, and live an ordinary life in the future.
53. Don't tear up on the network and people, who knows what's behind the monitor.
54. No matter how difficult it is, don't post it in the fren circle, no one will sympathize with you, and it will attract a lot of people who watch your jokes.
55. If others do not take the initiative to ask, k do not randomly point out others.
56. Existence is reasonable, and people's growth experiences are different, and their reactions to things are different.
57. When you go to fren's house as a guest, no matter how good your relationship is, you must remember to mention something.
58. Don't complain about anything in front of your colleagues in the unit, even if it's a trivial matter or a personal matter, you should completely quit the bad habit of complaining.
59. Don't pity anyone, if you look at it carefully with your eyes wide open, there will be something hateful about the poor person.
60. Friends who settle accounts with you can make deep frenches.