Many people think they can't live without others because they love too deeply. But the more realistic situation is: they base their self-worth on being "needed." So helping others becomes a way to prove oneself, caring for others becomes a form of identity, and saving others becomes a way to find meaning. The real issue has never been about giving too much, but about whether a person can confirm: when no one needs me, do I still have value? The so-called martyr complex is not fundamentally about loving too much, but about placing self-worth in others' lives. The more someone wants to save others, the more they often need to save themselves. True mature love is not about taking on others' fate, but about maintaining kindness while also allowing others to be responsible for their own lives. Because growth has never been about learning to care for everyone, but about learning to live out your own life.