How to determine if you've found the "right" person? If this person remains the same over the next twenty or thirty years—if they don't become wealthier, don't become more outstanding, and don't meet any of your expectations for them—would you still be willing to live with them? If your answer is yes, then you love this person for who they are. If your answer is no, then what you love might be more about their potential, possibilities, and your expectations for the future. Because many relationships ultimately break down not because the other person has changed, but because they never became the person you expected. Truly stable relationships are often not built on "I believe you will become better," but on "Even if you don't become the person I expect, I still want to be with you."