Is it always because of the “original family” that your life turns out badly?

But how do you explain that Cat Ge has also met many people who were born into a really terrible family,
yet they still ended up living in a way that many people envy?
So recently, Cat Ge has been thinking about this whenever he has the time,
because he noticed that a lot of people like to vent online—for example:
If work doesn’t go well, it’s because the shadow of the original family.
If you can’t date, it’s because your original family caused psychological trauma.
If your emotions are bad, it’s because you didn’t get love in childhood.
If you can’t make money, it’s because you were instilled with some “poor mindset” by your original family, etc.
It’s like that all of today’s misfortunes can have answers traced back 20 or 30 years ago..
Cat Ge isn’t denying the impact of an original family.
Because Cat Ge’s own original family wasn’t good either, and the family wasn’t well-off.
When I was young, I was often suppressed—for instance, being told: “Why are you so useless?” “Why are you so timid?”
Many things, even until today, I still remember, but I won’t go into them.
I used to think too,
Maybe because of the things that happened in childhood, many aspects of my personality were already predetermined.
Later on, I slowly realized that actually, you can change.
For example, over these years:
Cat Ge started exercising, practicing Muay Thai.
Started running, started a business.
Started leaving familiar surroundings and living in Thailand.
Started meeting more and more different people, and I realized:
What truly heals a person
is the need for new experiences.
Those who genuinely come out of a horrible original family
may have understood something early on:
Parents’ lives belong to the parents!
My life is my own.
I can’t change where I was born,
but I can decide
what books I read in the future,
what kind of people I make friends with,
where I go to live,
and what kind of person I become.
Cat Ge feels that
the original family is more like a set of cards you get at the start of life.
Some people are born with four-of-a-kind—“a killer hand” from the very beginning.
Some people are dealt the worst possible hand.
That is indeed unfair.
But!
What really decides the final outcome,
is often not the first card,
but every subsequent choice—because some people can take a terrible hand and still play it well, and win.
So if you have a happy family!
Please cherish it.
And if you don’t,
don’t rush to sentence your life to death.
Because Cat Ge feels:
What the original family determines is your starting point.
What truly determines the endpoint—what the future will be—
is still up to you.
Finally, I want to ask everyone one question:
How much do you think the original family can affect a person’s life, in the end?