Actually, what truly ruins a man is often not being poor.

Instead, once he sees a beautiful woman, he suddenly won’t be himself anymore.

For example, a lot of brothers have a habit:
They normally brag to friends, chat, and are hilarious—absolutely top tier…
But the moment a pretty girl shows up,
the whole person changes. They get nervous. They start flattering her.
They begin trying to prove themselves. They become overly careful.
Even a single message—delete, rewrite, delete again.

Brothers, from this moment on,
you’ve already lost, because what makes a woman “lose interest” isn’t your conditions.

It’s this: you’ve already put her on a pedestal.

Have you noticed? When many men see a beautiful woman,
the first thing in their minds probably isn’t:
“Does she fit me?”

It’s:
“Will she look down on me?”

One sentence decides everything.

She’s still her,
but you’ve already lowered yourself.

Actually, Cat Brother used to be like that too, but later Cat Brother met more and more beautiful women, and then realized:

Beauty is just one of the traits on them.
It has nothing to do with personality, nothing to do with upbringing, nothing to do with emotional intelligence.
And even less to do with love.

For example, they all experience breakups,
all feel anxious,
all feel insecure,
all get rejected,
and all like someone who doesn’t like them.

So later I increasingly believed this saying:
What truly needs to be “de-mystified”
isn’t the美女.
It’s your own insecurity.

Many men don’t lose to beautiful women.
They lose to the “beautiful woman” they fantasize into existence.

For example, when a beautiful woman replies with just one sentence:
“Haha.”

You already start imagining the future.
Two hours with no reply,
and you start doubting life itself.
She posts a selfie,
and you feel she’s unreachable—godlike.

But actually,
she hasn’t done anything.

The one adding filters the whole time
is you.

Cat Brother thinks.

A man’s true sign of maturity
isn’t how many beautiful women he’s seen,
and it doesn’t depend on the number.

It’s:
No matter who he’s standing in front of,
he won’t lose himself.

So those truly high-level people
appreciate others, but don’t worship them.

Pretty is worth appreciating.
But it’s not worth making yourself feel inferior.

At the end, Cat Brother wants to ask everyone a question:
What do you think is the most “cheapening” behavior a man can do?

A. Gets nervous the moment he sees a beautiful woman.
B. Frenetically proves his worth.
C. Treats the other person like a goddess, and turns himself into a nonstop people-pleaser.