A couple of years ago, Brother Cat's cousin Xiaoying got married and had a baby boy. After that, her mother-in-law kept finding excuses to come over and "help," which at first seemed fine.

One day, when Xiaoying wasn't home, her mother-in-law directly poured out the imported formula milk she had prepared (since Xiaoying had to work, the baby was formula-fed) and replaced it with something called "rice soup" cooked according to "old family methods."

Her reasoning: "I raised your husband all the way up without any of that foreign stuff. Your husband grew up on this, too."

When the husband came home and heard what happened, he said:
"Mom meant well. Don't be so sensitive. It's just the older generation's way of raising kids. I'll explain it to her later."

Xiaoying was already furious, and upon hearing this, she took the baby and went back to her parents' house that very night.

Brother Cat thinks the root of many mother-in-law/daughter-in-law conflicts might not be about "who is good to the child."
More likely, it stems from the husband's line: "Don't be so sensitive."

Because, as Brother Cat sees it, that sentence translates to: "Your feelings don't matter."

So sometimes what really breaks a marriage isn't the mother-in-law or the in-law relationship, but the husband who always tries to smooth things over.

Brother Cat only recently learned about this from chatting with his cousin.

What do you think? For instance, if you encountered a mother-in-law conflict, what do you think a man should do to be considered qualified?

How can one properly handle conflicts in the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship?