Most women’s most commonly heard saying is: “Why should I go through hardships with him?”

But they’ve never reflected on themselves.
If you’re born into a wealthy family, or you have strong abilities, and you choose a man who has nothing to “help him” and “take care of him,” then that is what it means to go through hardships with him.
If you’re born with nothing and have no ability to make money, living alone in a rented place—and ordering takeout, too—still counts as going through hardships.