For ordinary women, the essence of marriage isn’t about picking the right person—it’s about owning your choice. Many women treat marriage as a lifelong destination, but the most dangerous part of marriage has never been that the man is poor, never that he might change his mind, and not even that you meet a scumbag; it’s that you lose your escape route. Because no relationship can guarantee permanent stability. What truly determines whether a woman can enter marriage isn’t whether the other person is perfect enough, but this: when the relationship goes out of control, do you have the ability to take responsibility for your choice, carry the consequences, leave again, and start over? A mature view of marriage isn’t believing that love will never change—it’s knowing that even if the relationship fails, you still have the ability to live on.