In China, when many ordinary families' parents hear their children say, "If you have no money, don't have me," their first reaction is often: the child is rebellious, ungrateful, disrespectful to parents, or even feels they've raised a "white-eyed wolf." But often, the root cause isn't the child's problem, but parents' overly high expectations for their children, coupled with a lack of genuine understanding, support, and encouragement.

When a child is under long-term pressure of "You must be better," "You can't let me down," "Other kids can do it," yet doesn't receive enough resources, support, or emotional acceptance, the accumulated frustration inside may eventually turn into a highly aggressive statement: "If you have no money, don't have me."
The essence of this statement isn't necessarily about despising the parents' poverty, but about expressing a deep sense of helplessness:
"You have such high expectations for me, but I simply can't bear it."
"You want me to succeed, but you haven't given me enough support."
"I'm already very tired, but all you see are my shortcomings."
Truly wise parents are often not just demanding results from their children, but reducing control and lowering excessive expectations. Remember, children are not tools to fulfill one's life regrets. Be less harsh with your children, more supportive; less comparison, more acceptance. Many hurts in parent-child relationships won't gradually lead to confrontation.