Many parents say to their children "Don't be picky" verbally, but in reality, they have already excluded all the foods they dislike when shopping for groceries and ordering dishes. They are not unpicky; they just hold the menu rights. The ones who are truly forced to "not be picky" are the children who have no choice. Secretly chopping up the foods the child hates and forcing them to swallow is not really education, but a display of power: you don't need to have feelings, you only need to obey. A child who is not even allowed to refuse "I don't want to eat this dish" often finds it difficult to say "no" to people and relationships when they grow up. The most frightening aspect of many Chinese-style educations is not just controlling children, but packaging that control as "doing it for your good."