Everyone is praising high emotional intelligence, but what exactly is high emotional intelligence?

If you don't even understand the definition, you don't really deserve to use this term.
Since it's not clear, let's break it down and take a look.
Emotional intelligence only matters in social interactions.
Literally, high emotional intelligence means strong emotional management skills.
But upon reflection, isn't it okay for someone to be themselves and act freely?
Why bother managing emotions?
Essentially, emotional intelligence is social currency; it only has value in interactions between people.
In social settings, the standard for judgment isn't rational correctness but emotional comfort.
True high emotional intelligence isn't about who can endure more, but about making others feel comfortable and not exhausted when they're with you.
This comfort has levels.
Having priorities in your heart, seeing things from all angles.
In a group setting, you need to understand who is most important, but when joking with key figures, you can't ignore those in the corners who are less important.
This delicate sense of balance is skill.
The market always teaches people how to speak, but I believe that
High emotional intelligence is not just about language.
So-called high emotional intelligence means I care about you.
For example, when talking with a friend about something, and their assistant is also present, casually pouring a cup of tea for the assistant during the chat.
This action conveys that, although I didn't speak to you directly, I didn't ignore your presence.
At that moment, awkwardness is eased, and that is respect.
There are many explanations online, but I think the core is just one point:
High emotional intelligence is not about controlling emotions but about guiding emotions.
Under the premise of sincerity without being greasy, let everyone feel seen and cared for—that is the highest form of tenderness.