Many of a person's obsessions are not innate, but are the aftermath of "feelings of lack."

You think others are too greedy, but maybe they're just afraid of being poor.
You think others have too much control desire, but maybe they were always abandoned before.
You wonder why others always want to prove themselves, but perhaps they've long lived in denial.
Many struggles in adulthood are not really for the present, but to make up for the past.
Those things that can't be let go of, desperately held onto, or repeatedly confirmed, are often what was missing before.
The biggest difference between people is never just personality, but experience.
You think they've changed, but actually you just haven't seen how they've endured along the way.