In unequal relationships, the true “benefactors” often aren’t short on resources; instead, they’re even more wary of deliberate flattery and calculated favors. They tend to prefer people who are direct, natural, and well-measured. Rather than spending time trying to manage relationships, it’s better to focus on specific interactions: less of a sense of purpose, more effortless, considerate thoughtfulness—no “mass-produced” gestures, no keeping score, and no deliberately emphasizing it. Let the other person feel at ease when they’re with you, with no pressure. Over time, what you convey isn’t just minor kindnesses, but a steady, reliable, and comfortable feeling—this is the key to making opportunities more likely to come toward you.