In an environment where no matter what you do, you are criticized and blamed, will you still keep trying? Even dogs wouldn't. People will gradually become dull, dull-witted, and even completely lose their will. There is a famous experiment in psychology: when a dog in a cage is subjected to electric shocks no matter what, it eventually falls into a state of "helplessness" and gives up struggling. Even when later taken to a new environment, it still believes it cannot escape the shocks. The helpless dog is like this, and people who are constantly negated are also like this. Psychologists call this state "learned helplessness." Why do some people always like to suppress and criticize you? Because the desire for control brings a sense of satisfaction. Compared to restraining oneself, controlling others is obviously much easier. And those who are long-term controlled and negated often become sacrifices for others to gain a sense of superiority and emotional satisfaction. Therefore, you must stay away from environments and relationships that continuously drain and suppress you. Re-establish a sense of control over life, regain recognition of yourself, and your vitality will gradually recover.

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