In Chinese families, true deep control is often not direct commands, but long-term decision-making on your behalf. When a child's key choices are consistently made by parents—for example, what to study, how to choose, who to socialize with, how to schedule their time, whether interests are valuable—they appear to be "being cared for," but in reality, their autonomous judgment ability is gradually being stripped away. Autonomy is essentially a skill developed through continuous decision-making, taking responsibility for the outcomes, and adjusting accordingly. If this process is persistently interrupted, a person will find it difficult to develop an internal sense of "this is my choice," and instead may experience a split: being responsible for the results but lacking genuine control, leading to a stable sense of helplessness. This can manifest in two ways: one is over-dependence, making it hard to make decisions independently; the other is a strong counter-control reaction, reacting fiercely to any interference. However, both fundamentally stem from an unhealthily unestablished sense of autonomy. True autonomy is not about acting on impulse, but about gradually developing the ability to take responsibility for one's choices within an environment that allows for trial and error and respects boundaries. If this kind of practice is lacking over the long term, it will not only affect decision-making abilities but also extend to careers, relationships, and boundary awareness.