In China, bride price is a penalty for men who are not good enough; being faithful is a passive choice for those with ordinary conditions; giving in is a concession and compensation for those with lower value; deep affection is the fixation of those with limited choices; being considerate is a forced compromise for the disadvantaged side; being home-minded is self-soothing for those who lack ambition; and kindness is to stick to these ways of behaving even after becoming strong enough. Sometimes, the goals we strive for are precisely to prevent goodwill from being misjudged.