It's not that others want to control you and can definitely control you; it requires your cooperation to be effective. Many power relationships fundamentally depend on your participation to be valid. For example: social standards and rules that make you believe, comply, and participate in order for them to function effectively; when a boss wants to "restrain you," it also requires your agreement to the workplace rules and acceptance of task assignments; parents want to "control you" and "shape you," but it also depends on you caring about their opinions and listening to them.

But many people don't realize that you have the right to "not play this game." You can opt out of this rule system, stop seeking so much social approval, stop carrying others' expectations, stop thinking you must succeed or save someone, and not be bound by these things. If I don't participate, many restrictions become invalid for me. The world is a vast wilderness; life isn't just one track, and there are many more individual-related things you can do.