The intimacy between people does not depend on the length of time spent together or superficial excitement, but is shaped by two forces: one is the experience of the "deep water zone," and the other is the "everyday connection." On one hand, true closeness often occurs during less glamorous moments—when you break down and reveal vulnerability in front of the other person, yet are supported; when you experience genuine conflicts, express dissatisfaction without leaving; or even when you share burdens and avoid blame during life's hardships—these all make the relationship more resilient. On the other hand, intimacy also relies on daily stability and gentleness—consistent responses, subtle care, ease and comfort during interactions, and the ability to be quietly bored in each other's presence without awkwardness. These seemingly ordinary details allow the relationship to grow slowly and endure long-term. True intimacy is not just about sharing hardships or simply stacking happiness; it is about continuing to draw close and choose each other in the midst of authenticity and imperfection.