Putting too much energy into others is bullying oneself.

Many interpersonal troubles cause internal exhaustion because we overlook a core: what truly matters is our own feelings, emotions, and mental health.
Only by first stabilizing the inner self can life have the strength to move forward.
If we always get caught up in others' responses and the gains or losses of relationships, we will be dragged down by meaningless things, unable to see the direction clearly, and lose the motivation to pursue a better life.
Instead of repeatedly repairing those unimportant relationships, it’s better to refocus on ourselves and concentrate on what we truly want to do and what is meaningful to us.