If someone makes you feel the following four ways, please distance yourself as soon as possible:

First, unease. When you're with them, you always tread carefully, afraid of saying the wrong thing or making mistakes. Your intuition is already warning you: this person is unsafe. Don’t rationalize repeatedly telling yourself “maybe I’m overthinking,” because your body is often more honest than your mind.

Second, exhaustion. Every time you see them, you feel especially tired—not physically, but emotionally. A single conversation drains your energy, and it takes a long time to recover. A good relationship is energizing; a bad one only drains you. If you’re constantly exhausted, step away in time.

Third, lack of respect. Your feelings are ignored, your boundaries are casually violated. When you say “no,” they act as if they didn’t hear you. Someone who can’t even give you basic respect isn’t worth your continued presence.

Fourth, inability to be yourself. Around them, you have to pretend, hold back, or even suppress your true self. You don’t dare to laugh loudly, express your genuine thoughts, or show vulnerability. This isn’t a relationship; it’s a form of confinement.