The prerequisite for Chinese men to get things done: de-mystify women. The "traditional narratives" instilled from childhood treat sexual resources as a scarce commodity, using marriage and family structures to exploit and coerce men, forcing many to enter a distorted value system from adolescence: treating love as a test, marriage as a task, sex as a prize, and self-sacrifice as an obligation. This means that during the most critical growth stages, they are socialized into a "people-pleasing machine" without ever having the chance to understand who they are or what kind of person they want to become. Worse still, when someone grows up in a structurally unequal distribution of sexual resources, it’s hard not to be shaped into someone anxious, timid, and with low expectations. I really recommend going out more. Going out isn’t about changing countries for love, but about understanding yourself for the first time through the "coordinate system of the normal world": realizing that relationships are not transactions, sex is not a scarce resource, women are not divine targets, and men are not automatically the ones expected to give. When you break free from this narrative, the world becomes much clearer, and people can stand upright much more easily. $PROPS $STRK $AI