Why do many women in Chinese families seem more adept at the game of power than men, even keeping some men who already bear heavy responsibilities in a state of being denied, controlled, and suppressed for a long time? But if we simply attribute this to "women being born this way," we are precisely ignoring the real root of the problem. In many cases, this is not a matter of gender but the result of the combined shaping of institutions, culture, and social environment. In a society where families must assume a large number of social functions such as elderly care, education, healthcare, and class mobility, the family is no longer just an emotional community but also a risk community. In an environment that has long lacked a sense of security, emphasizes responsibility and order, and is accustomed to solving problems through relationships rather than rules, people instinctively develop various power strategies to gain certainty. Men often seek a sense of control through resources, responsibility, and social status, while women more often gain a sense of security through relationships, emotions, and family order. So, it may seem like "women are more skilled at the game of power," but the real issue is: Chinese society forces everyone to learn the game of power just to gain a little bit of security.