The relationship between a person and their parents often reflects the true emotional structure of a family. Many parents do not lack love for their children, but rather confuse the boundaries between love, control, anxiety, and self-justification. They may genuinely hope for their children to have a better life, yet due to limitations in their own cognition, emotions, and life experiences, they cause long-term harm to their children. To judge whether a family is healthy, one should not only look at how much the parents have given, but also whether the child truly feels respected, understood, and accepted. Love itself cannot automatically offset harm; acknowledging the harm and taking responsibility is the beginning of a mature relationship.