A mature intimate relationship is essentially not about satisfying each other's emotional dependency, but a structural system that continuously breaks "self-centeredness". In this process, a person gradually learns to express themselves, understand others, and take on responsibilities and boundaries in the relationship, instead of only expecting to be understood and tolerated. Conflict, resistance, and discomfort do not mean relationship failure, but are often signals that the old self-narrative is being broken and the cognitive structure is being reshaped. True growth is not about "losing oneself", but about expanding more complex understanding and empathy through two-way interaction, transforming the relationship from one-way taking to two-way flow.