Why are some people especially afraid of authority and unwilling to refuse others? Many times, it's not because they are timid, but because they haven't experienced "being loved even after conflict" since childhood. When a child's expressions are often denied, rejected, punished, or suppressed, they learn not communication, but obedience. As adults, what they fear is not authority itself, but the potential breakdown of relationships, emotional rejection, and loss of security that may come with authority. The deeper issue is that they have never established a stable and independent self. When facing the world, they are used to first observing what others allow rather than what they want; first considering how to be accepted rather than how to express their true selves. The so-called timid personality is often not due to lack of ability, but a survival strategy formed in childhood. When a person truly develops a self, they may not become tough, but they will increasingly dare to say "no," and increasingly dare to bear the cost of being themselves.