Yesterday, I watched an interview where a daughter asked her billionaire father about choosing a partner.

The daughter said, if I suddenly bring home a man covered in tattoos, looking like Tyson, but I love him very much, would you accept it?

The father said, no.

The daughter asked, do you have a bias against tattoos?

The father said, no, if he were Tyson, he could tattoo himself however he wants, but if he’s doing all these strange cosmetic procedures on his face and can’t make a lot of money just by fighting, then I don’t know what he’s doing. At the same time, I would also be worried about your taste and aesthetic because now it’s not just about him anymore, but about why you like such a strange guy, which shows you’re also not normal.

Up to this point, I believe everyone still has no disagreement, but now the focus:

The daughter said, what if this person is just lazy, lacks ambition, but he’s very nice, caring, I mean, just an ordinary lazy person, but with no bad habits, good personality, can you accept that? The father said, I can accept him as your partner, that’s your choice, but he can’t get respect from me; respect has to be earned by himself. Because if he’s so ordinary, how can he take care of you? The daughter said, but I love him very much, and I can also earn money to support him. The father said, you can do that, but I dare to guarantee you’ll get tired of him. At this point, many people might disagree—what’s wrong with an ordinary person who lacks ambition, isn’t very hardworking, and is lazy? Not stealing, not robbing, just living their life, why shouldn’t they be respected? Wait, living your own life and loving others are not the same. Let’s think about it first: what is the purpose of striving and progressing? It’s to expand the boundaries of freedom. What is the “boundary” of freedom? The freedom to do anything is limited by your own capacity to bear risks—if something risky happens and you can’t handle it, and if the negative externalities spill over to others, then you’re not qualified to do that thing from the start. For example, Luo Yonghao said that when he was starting his business, his biggest regret was letting his wife sign as a guarantor, because he didn’t do proper risk isolation—that’s the principle. When you might cause negative consequences to others and have no high-level backup plan, you’re not qualified to do it. Luo Yonghao, even if he saw his company go bankrupt, wouldn’t have the right to let his wife sign that paper. The stronger a person’s ability, the more resources they can allocate, the greater their backup capacity, and the larger their freedom boundary. They are more capable of resisting extreme risks for themselves and others—people say wealthy people can grow through trial and error, but where does this confidence come from? When you say you love someone but are unwilling to expand their freedom boundary, where is that love reflected? In making breakfast, pouring a glass of water, or driving them to work? Of course, you might say, I’m lazy, I don’t provide these, but I just need to not hold them back. I don’t need them to support me; I’m self-sufficient, even if our social statuses differ. I only spend my own money, live my own life—why not? No, when the other person is hardworking and successful, and you are lazy and poor, even if you don’t want to drain them, you will inevitably be forced, many times, to either suck their blood or feel uncomfortable. The father said, if our family went out on a yacht, would he join? It’s like you and your best girlfriend—one is a billionaire, the other is a student in poverty—how would you go out? Stay in the same hotel? Eat at the same table? Buy plane tickets? Who pays? And if one party accepts the other’s “support,” then there’s no qualification to talk about mutual respect in the relationship, because if emotional value also needs to be “mutually provided,” then what does money buy? Effort to expand the radius of freedom to match the other’s resources, value, status, and needs is a response to love. If it can’t be matched and you don’t want to match, then you should stay away from that love because you’re not qualified to accept it. Many say that as long as you love each other and are trustworthy, that’s enough. No, that’s just the basic premise for whether a person is worth loving, but love itself has no exemption from effort. When a young person has no plans to achieve greater success in their career, don’t rush into talking about love. #成长值抽奖赢金条