Why do wealthy people always hope that their partner's love isn't based on their money?

Many rich people have an emotional fantasy—that they wish others love the “person” and not their money. Is that true? Wang Shi, and many other wealthy individuals, share this expectation—that when a partner is “someone they only found after becoming rich,” they fear that others only like their money and resources.

Why is that? Inner insecurity is at play. When we build relationships with anyone, as long as it’s not a one-time gamble, and we want to establish a long-term, close, trustworthy relationship, both parties need to keep investing—time, energy, money—and bind some shared interests. This increases the stability of the relationship. But if we anticipate that a relationship might easily break apart, we won’t pour a lot into it from the start, because the risk of it being a flop is high. This makes the relationship more likely to disintegrate—it becomes self-reinforcing and self-fulfilling. So, wealthy people hope that the other person’s love isn’t based on their money and resources because if it is, there are two unstable variables: first, what if they lose their money and resources later? Second, what if the other person also becomes wealthy and “gains wings”?—This would directly cause wealthy individuals to be reluctant to invest money and resources early on, which is the so-called “just show, don’t take.” Therefore, it’s a game. One side must work hard to prove they’re not in it for the money, but for qualities that are less likely to change even if they get money and resources—such as charm, personality, generosity, manner of doing things, vision, wisdom, etc. The other side then trusts and invests, gradually infiltrates, tests, and continuously increases their value in other areas—like Wang Shi doing this and that, seemingly not inferior to young people in any aspect. Deceiving and being deceived, the other might also like my other qualities. Playing along? Yes, it’s a performance, but not just a performance. Human motives are often multiple and complex. Human emotions are never driven by a single factor—you like someone’s decisiveness and charisma when you have money, not just the money, and that’s real; when you don’t have money, you dislike seeing them fail at everything, not just because they lack money, but because it’s true. So I say this is a fantasy. How can rich people peel money off themselves? If you don’t peel it off, you could find Liu Yifei; and if you already found Liu Yifei, then after peeling it off, what reason does Liu Yifei have to stay with you? If Wang Shi had no money or resources, even if he loved sports and charity, he’d just be a park grandpa. At most, he’d be one of the gods of sunset in Chaoyang District—someone who can only find a nearby aunt to watch from the sidelines. Why have unrealistic fantasies? Even the Oracle boss, Larry Ellison, seems incredibly charming—try bankrupting him. At over 80, how does he still be a groom every night? The fact is, even in his early 30s, when he was full of vigor and had no career, he was still kicked out by his first wife. Where does the charm come from then? Wealthy people must first face their money and resources—they are like embedded values, inseparable parts of themselves. Since that’s the case, the partner they match with when they’re rich is inherently of higher value. They shouldn’t consider peeling that away unless they’re very rich but are looking for someone who can be found even among the common folk. Second, maintaining their core advantages is more important than anything. Instead of adding trivial qualities, dreaming unrealistically, or worrying about this and that, they should focus on “preventing these risks from happening.” Don’t spend all your energy on feelings, love, or whether they love you—whether they love your money or your person. All that is a misallocation of effort. Conversely, even if you’re willing to invest, once the other person takes the resources and money, they might no longer exchange emotional value with you. As long as your core resources remain, finding the next one is straightforward—just like that. #股票交易挑战最高赢17000U