What do men think after losing the married life?


Today I’m going to tell some honest truths, some of which you may not like to hear, some may hurt you, especially the last point, but these words are directly related to whether your marriage can continue, whether you can feel comfortable and happy in this marriage.
If you listen carefully, you can avoid major pitfalls in marriage and protect your happiness.
First, he will inevitably suspect whether you have betrayed him. You must understand that men's possessiveness is stronger than women's; in a man's perception, sex has never just been a physiological need, but also a proof of the relationship, an important way to confirm how good your feelings are, and also evidence that this woman belongs to him alone.
In a man's view, having a married life is a matter of course; without it, it only proves that your body and mind belong to someone else.
Especially when he repeatedly takes the initiative to get close to you, wanting intimacy, but you always resist, dislike, or even feel impatient and repulsed just when he approaches you, his feelings will become even stronger. This suspicion will make him lose a sense of security and belonging, and also lose confidence in your relationship.
This loss of confidence will lead to a second very bad result. Men will become increasingly dissatisfied with their wives, full of negative energy.
From a psychoanalytic perspective, sex is the release of libido, which is the source of vitality.
If a man's sexual impulses are suppressed for a long time, the frustration and sense of defeat that build up inside will become very strong, and some men may also feel a humiliating sense of helplessness that they cannot express.
These feelings gradually accumulate and can turn into dissatisfaction, indifference, or hatred toward the wife, and of course, revenge.
For example, he might seek someone outside, come home very late at night, or become more and more cold towards you. If it reaches this point, it is the most painful pit in marriage.
You must understand that, for men, desire does not disappear; it only shifts. A man's physiological needs are like eating and drinking—an essential requirement ingrained in his bones. If the family doesn’t provide for it, if he’s not satisfied, he won’t keep enduring it. He will subconsciously look for other outlets and secretly vent his desires.
If he only indulges in gaming, alcohol, or uses these as ways to escape reality and numb himself, that’s relatively better;
but if he can’t resist and finds satisfaction with another woman, feeling needed, then your marriage is truly at the edge of danger, and at that point, you will feel very distressed.
Many women regret deeply at this stage, trying every possible way to save the relationship. Some relationships can be salvaged, but both people will be significantly hurt.
Finally, I want to tell everyone that many vicious cycles in marriage actually start here:
Less spiritual communication, women gradually resisting intimacy, men's needs being suppressed for a long time, then becoming indifferent and suspicious, and then women feeling that men are unreasonable and resisting even more. Eventually, the two drift further apart, and the marriage reaches a complete end.
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