A recent profound lesson I learned is that the fundamental cause of conflicts in intimate relationships is often the misalignment of underlying goals. When both parties can communicate honestly and express their true feelings, the problems tend to become simple and clear.

However, the complexity lies in the fact that people are often unwilling to reveal their true inner thoughts, and many lack the ability to analyze their genuine inner feelings. This leads to secondary issues in intimate relationships such as suspicion, verification, confusion, and concealment, which are often difficult to resolve.
Therefore, the most important thing is to find a partner who is willing to communicate honestly, has self-awareness, and the ability to reflect, rather than trying to solve the aforementioned secondary issues.