I believe many friends have seen the clip where someone leaves this poor guy without a car or a house, saying "Listen to Mom."

Actually, when this blogger first posted this video, I stayed on this segment for a long time.
Many people think this statement is very correct, especially women. I admit this rhetoric is very clever, easily leading people into a trap of self-justification.
First, equating whether parents have the obligation to prepare a wedding house with whether they love their children is using material standards to bind family affection. According to this logic, rural families, families burdened by illness or accidents, are not qualified to let their children get married?
Second, equating twenty years of no preparation with always neglecting it. Who knew twenty years ago how high the housing prices would be this year? Family expenses are dynamic and influenced by various factors along the way. Using the outcome to reverse-engineer their intentions—knowing but deliberately not acting—is a typical case of hindsight bias.
Third, saying that many women are willing to contribute financially is very double standard. If the man doesn’t prepare, he’s selfish; if the woman is willing to contribute, she’s noble? Standing in the judge’s position, scrutinizing whether the other family gives or not, essentially turns marriage into a material transaction.
Fourth, using extreme cases to deny the efforts of all young people. Judging a family’s selfishness based solely on the superficial lack of a house or car is simplistic. What truly matters in marriage is a person’s ambition and sense of responsibility, and whether both are willing to face challenges together.
We are ordinary people. We cannot choose our original family, but we can work hard ourselves. I have always believed that my parents are my greatest support, giving me the best. The path I take in the future, the hardships I endure—those are our own choices.