The people who hurt you are doing it on purpose—there are no careless slips, only choices made after weighing things. So there’s no need to mend any relationship that has hurt you. Even if the other person turns back and seems good, don’t rush to forgive; otherwise, all the grievances you’ve suffered will become “you had it coming.” Remember, you can choose not to hold a grudge, but you can’t afford not to learn from it. You can forgive others generously, but you must not foolishly trust them again. The last thing to remember is this: in the previous moment, it was the other person’s tricks.