20 Truths About Human Nature

1. Women approach men for two things: one is emotional support, which is emotional value; the other is financial reliance, which is material value.
2. Men approach women for two things: either for your tenderness and thoughtfulness or for your physical companionship.
3. When people are starving and can't bear it, they will choose things they dislike; when people are lonely and empty, they will choose people they don't love. The saying "hunger makes one choose food, panic makes one choose a road, cold makes one choose clothes, and hardship makes one choose friends" reflects this truth.
4. Dogs bite humans, mostly biting strangers; humans bite humans, usually biting those they know well. Dogs bite humans mainly to protect their owners; humans harm others mostly for personal gain.
5. Dogs are always dogs; humans, however, are not always truly human. Feed a dog for three days, and it will remember you for three years; treat a person well for three years, but if you slip up once, the relationship can be completely broken. No matter how old you are, trusting others too easily is your biggest vulnerability.
6. In any relationship, if you want it to last long, don't take it too seriously; the more you value it, the easier it is to lose.
7. The more confident, principled, and composed you are, the more respect you will gain; the more timid and accommodating you are, the less people will take you seriously.
8. If you feel someone doesn't like you, don't doubt yourself; that person has already secretly despised you, more than you imagine. No need to please or cater; stay indifferent and keep your distance.
9. Chasing after the person you love is less important than cherishing the person who loves you. Infatuation and romance don't matter as much as being suitable for a lifelong companionship.
10. Kind and honest people often feel embarrassed to refuse others; but some people, even after you help them hundreds of times, will think you owe them and that it's only natural.
11. Life has three hurdles: at 20, accept your parents' ordinariness; at 40, accept your own ordinariness; at 50, accept your children's ordinariness.
12. A mad person is easy to identify; but among a group of mad people, the sober ones are often mistaken for outsiders or crazy.
13. Couples don't divorce, so they can't see their true nature; sisters don't touch money, so they can't see their true faces; children don't get sick, so they can't see filial piety; friends don't involve interests, so they can't see true sincerity.
14. Good-heartedly warning a fool not to be cheated might make the fool feel insulted; it can also offend the scammer and touch their interests. In the end, fools and scammers might team up to exclude you.
15. Never complain about what has already happened. If you have the ability, change it; if not, accept it calmly. Many frustrations and depressions are fundamentally due to one's own lack of ability.
16. Honesty and kindness rarely lead to great wealth; those who dare to take risks, break through barriers, and are adaptable tend to earn more wealth.
17. Quit unsuitable jobs, leave inappropriate circles, end unsuitable relationships, and stay away from people who drain you. It's not scary to take the wrong train; knowing when to get off is true wisdom.
18. Empathy without seeking profit, working together without seeking benefits; helping in emergencies but not the poor, assisting the lazy but not the lazy. Stay away from vicious dog fights and don't reason with barbarians.
19. Most people's bottom line comes from their financial strength; money can broaden your horizons and wisdom, and it can also cure most insecurities.
20. Many of the knowledge learned in school are hardly useful in society and may even restrict your thinking. Campus education tends to focus on discipline and stability, suitable for obedient workers; truly navigating society, understanding survival, and seeking development depend on understanding human nature.