The Old Fox's Secret Skills for Controlling People That Are Never Shared

1. During gatherings, pay more attention to the person in the corner who isn't speaking; they will be very grateful to you and will remember you.
2. Someone who is inferior to you in every way. The more respect you show them, the more they will repay you.
3. Flatter the elderly; when people grow old and retire, they only have those memories left. Praise them more, and they will be useful to you.
4. Learn to act dumb, ask more questions: "What do you think?" Let subordinates come up with ideas and complete tasks independently. Even if the results are not good, it’s their responsibility.
5. If someone is spreading bad rumors about you or deliberately framing you, never explain yourself to others, or it will backfire. Instead, talk about their good qualities everywhere. Soon everyone will realize they are a petty person and will dislike them more and more.
6. Intentionally issue a seemingly absurd order to see who is catering to you and who is trying to dissuade you.
7. Use what you know to pretend you don’t know and test your subordinates. You will see if they are lying.
8. To get to know someone, ask her to help with a small task that’s easy to complete. This gives you a reason to invite her to dinner.
9. To ruin someone, keep praising and flattering them, endlessly complimenting them.
10. Don’t invite a group of people to dinner; invite them one by one. Only by inviting individually will others open up to you.
11. When you’ve finished using someone, don’t directly dismiss or criticize them. Instead, create a temptation that makes them leave voluntarily without damaging your reputation.
12. When eating at a friend’s restaurant, always pay. On the surface, they won’t mind, but secretly they will keep track of everything and know exactly how much you’re worth. No matter how good a friend is, this applies.
13. To test a man, remember to ask him to drive. To test a woman, remember to take her swimming.
14. If you can speak well, you can handle 50% of people. If you can share benefits, you can handle 70%. If you can speak well and share benefits, you can handle 98%. Flattering others and knowing when to give just the right amount will help you win over 99% of people.
15. When doing things, find people who are short on resources; when planning, find those who are well-off.
16. After the first meeting, be able to call out someone’s name or remember their preferences. Your favorability in their eyes will rise sharply. This is very effective for developing mature clients in business.
17. If someone helps you, regardless of whether they mention it or not, besides thanking them, learn to reciprocate. That’s what it means to understand human relations. Next time, they will be willing to help you again.
18. If someone hesitates or leaves half-said words when talking to you, remember this moment. Keep your eyes fixed on them and wait silently for them to continue. Rest assured, within a few seconds, they will speak again. Usually, no one wants to fall into long silence and awkwardness.
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