Lately, I’ve been increasingly convinced by metaphysics—not fortune-telling or face-reading, but certain subtle rules in life. I’ve summed up nine pretty interesting observations, and I’ve tried several of them myself—they really do work.

First, the most direct one: a person’s luck is related to their appearance much more than you’d think. Dressing well is truly the fastest shortcut. In a time of rapid judgment, “words that humble the gentleman” and “proper attire that restrains the petty person” means your temperament and what you wear often determine other people’s first impression of you. Even if a messy person is talented, they’re still easy to overlook. Conversely, people who present themselves neatly and carefully seem like their luck usually isn’t too bad either. Here, metaphysics isn’t superstition—it’s psychology.

Everything should have limits—this is especially important. Don’t eat until you’re too full. Don’t be too nice to people. When you’re busy, don’t help too much. Don’t pour too much of yourself into your relationships. Many people end up suffering losses because of this: endless concessions are often traded for being stepped on.

Another one I especially agree with is: don’t ever try to change anyone. Everyone has their own fate-trajectory. You can’t change other people—including your children and your partner. Instead of expending effort to reshape them, it’s better to accept and let go. That’s actually the highest level of metaphysical wisdom.

Learning to “turn the page” is also crucial. Let the past be the past; getting stuck and tangled up in it over and over only hurts yourself. Life is a series of turning pages, and every time you let something go, it becomes a form of redemption for yourself.

When you encounter something that works against you, pause first. Stillness is auspicious. Impulsiveness is a sign of immaturity. Many times, silence and waiting will bring unexpected turning points. This whole logic of metaphysics has been proven in real life countless times.

Tuning in is also wonderful. Only people who are in sync will come together, and when you’re happy, good things naturally draw closer. The first step toward turning your luck around isn’t changing your fortune—it’s adjusting your own frequency. But be careful: kindness also comes with a cost. If you sympathize with someone, you may end up having to shoulder their fate too. This is a very realistic side of metaphysics.

“Everything that happens is beneficial to me” is the mindset I like the most. Sometimes, if things don’t work out, it’s Heaven protecting you. The power goes out, the car breaks down, being late causes someone to break up—these seem like bad things, but they’re actually filtering and adjusting things. If you get it, count yourself lucky and treasure it; if you lose it, it’s your fate—turn the page. When you view life with this kind of mindset, everything becomes smoother.

Mindset decides everything. People “die” from anger; flowers “die” from improper watering. Serious illnesses are often related to emotions. If your emotions have been bad for a long time, it can easily give rise to illness. The core of health preservation isn’t just nurturing your body—it’s nurturing your mindset. When your mood improves, everything will get better too.

Finally, the last one: you must avoid omens that come true. Either don’t say anything, or if you say something, say it properly. Complain less and curse yourself less, because the metaphysical phenomenon of a “saying that turns into an omen and then is fulfilled” is real. These nine things may sound like metaphysics, but in truth they’re all micro-level patterns of life. If you follow them, you’ll find that your life really does get better.