Why is family infighting so severe in poor households? Family members always blame you: once you start working, you think you’re grown up; when things happen, you don’t tell the family anymore, and you become colder and colder. But the reality is this: when you chat with your family—three sentences are never about money; four sentences can’t avoid talk of marriage; five sentences are all about saving and being thrifty; six sentences teach you to be sensible, to give in, and to tolerate things; seven sentences are each a plea about how hard it was to raise you; eight sentences keep going nonstop, comparing you to other people.