The three steps for women to become enlightened: no emotion, no form, no self.

Some women, after living to their thirties or forties, suddenly become different. It's not that they changed their face, nor that they suddenly.
Gotten rich, that thing changed. When faced with problems, they no longer panic. No matter what others say, they care less. Their eyes carry something extra. You can call it clarity, or you can call it awareness.
This kind of change is called enlightenment.