How to tell if a girl has been with a big brother

Have you ever met a girl whose monthly salary is five or six thousand, but her social media is full of golf courses, five-star hotels, and travel across the country? Where does she get the money from? My friend shared his method of judgment with me, saying he’s never been wrong using these tricks.

First, look at her consumption habits.

The first thing he checks is the girl’s spending behavior. A girl earning five or six thousand a month, if she’s constantly checking in at trendy restaurants, going skiing, to the beach, or golf courses all the time, there’s a problem.

He says, it’s not that she can’t enjoy life, but her spending should match her income. If her rent and food leave little left, where does she get the money to go everywhere? Unless her family is wealthy, or someone is supporting her.

He gave an example: he knows a girl earning four thousand, whose social media is all high-end malls, afternoon teas, and luxury cars with her in the passenger seat. Later, he found out she was keeping in touch with several guys at once—one paying for dinner today, another sending gifts tomorrow.

Spending far beyond income is the first red flag.

Second, look at her job. The second thing to check is her profession—streamer, medical aesthetician, shopping agent.

He says girls in these three professions often have more opportunities to meet wealthy people. It’s not that all girls in these jobs have issues, but if combined with a few other traits, it’s hard to ignore.

He mentioned a girl working in medical aesthetics, whose social media was full of luxury gifts from clients—today a bag, tomorrow a set of skincare products. She said they were gifts, but who would give an ordinary consultant a bag worth tens of thousands?

Later, he found out she was close with several clients.

The profession itself isn’t the problem, but how she uses her job to contact certain people is.

Third, look at her assets. Being young, in her early twenties, and already driving a nice car or owning a fully paid small apartment.

If her family isn’t in business, and her parents are just regular employees, where does that money come from?

A girl who just graduated from college and bought a car worth over 300,000 yuan, claiming she earned it herself, but she works as a mall sales assistant earning four or five thousand a month—how did she make that money?

Later, he found out it was a gift from her ex-boyfriend, who’s ten-plus years older and works in engineering.

Assets not matching income is the third red flag.

Fourth, observe her attitude toward material things.

This guy says, girls who have been with a big brother generally show little interest in ordinary consumption.

If you invite her to eat at a street stall, she frowns; if you take her shopping at a supermarket, she finds it boring; if you give her a gift worth a few hundred yuan, she doesn’t even look at it.

It’s not that she’s picky, but she’s seen better.

He once went on a blind date with a girl who demanded to go to a restaurant with an average bill of 500 yuan per person on their first meeting. After eating, she wanted to go to a bar. He tentatively suggested a cheaper place, and she said, “Never mind, we’re not really compatible.”

If she looks down on ordinary life at every turn, be cautious.

Finally, look at her family background.

The first four are just auxiliary; what really convinced him was her family background.

If she comes from an ordinary family, with parents who are just regular employees, and even has younger siblings to support, then her spending habits, job, assets, and attitude toward material things can basically tell the story.

A girl from an ordinary family, without external financial support, can’t be living that kind of life in her early twenties.

It’s a harsh truth, but there’s some logic to it.

Honestly, some of what he said makes sense—spending should match income, assets should match ability, that’s fine.

But I also wonder—are some girls just being wrongly accused?

For example, she’s really busy with shopping agents, earning two or three thousand a month, so she can travel and buy nice things. Or her family is ordinary, but her parents are frugal and bought her a car. Or she just visits a golf course once in a while, posts a photo on social media, and gets misunderstood.

These methods can help you filter, but they can’t judge someone’s character. The best way is to spend more time with her, get to know her better—time will tell you the answer.