After reading the Wife's Dating Guide, I feel a bit emotional.

He has fundamentally never shed his traditional patriarchal ideas. He has a natural reverence for the symbol of the father and an unshakable fantasy of authority.
However, the image of a cuckold slave (his father's reality) and a modern master (his father's facade) are not contradictory, and this split image clashes with the ideal father figure in his mind.

His childhood love story also reveals the origin of his trauma: youthful innocence cannot move a girl alienated by her family. His traditional male thinking (he should control everything) was overturned at this moment, and he felt a loss of psychological control. This also exposes his obsessive personality.
He sees that even a strong man like his father only alienates slaves through capital, making them dance with a bridle... but what about himself? He cannot control anyone.

He begins to question: what exactly is a father?
His anger, frustration, and rage pour out as a superego force.
And this PDF is essentially a preview of his childhood trauma.
He has placed the self onto the scaffold of self-objectification.

Sartre said: "Hell is other people."
Under the gaze of others, a person is forced to become alienated, trapped in a cage as an object.
And his tragedy is his escape—only to build a new hell himself.
His trauma is his inability to accept the fractured image of his father, the dual gaze of the cuckold and the master.
He fears being defined by this gaze, afraid of repeating this tragedy.
So his only defense mechanism is to become a god, the ultimate big Other.
In this new hell, he is no longer under scrutiny; he actively gazes at all others.
In this new hell, the wife is not just a person; she is his Other—an existence he objectifies, symbolizes, analyzes, and instrumentalizes.

His superego's judgment is as follows:
Cheating is normal; human society is essentially a jungle law. The cuckold slave deserves it—he's just a worthless trash.
But his entire book does not interpret sex itself. His psychological satisfaction does not come from physical collision, nor from castrating her subjectivity. He doesn't even enjoy the relationship itself.
He is not lacking in security but lacks identification with patriarchal symbols.
And his pleasure entirely stems from his attempt to subvert the image of the father as a cuckold and master.
He dares not challenge patriarchy itself because, in essence, he seems to have replaced that omnipotent patriarchal symbol.
But deep down, he is incredibly fearful and conflicted.
He cannot reconcile with his childhood trauma.
Even in his final critique and complaints, he never realizes that this is the core problem.

This is, in psychoanalysis, omnipotent narcissism.