Why do you always remember the pain of the past, constantly ruminating and chewing on it, unable to stop? Is it because you are blaming others? In fact, you are blaming yourself; you blame yourself for not being in a perfect state at every moment, and you blame yourself for not responding better at that moment. But in reality, we have done our best at every moment; we have already devised a so-called foolproof strategy. All your actions are for better self-protection. You may have gone through a childhood that was forced to be corrected, where no matter what you did, you could not receive a word of certain praise. But now that we have grown up, whenever you remember those painful memories again, you must tell yourself that it's okay. I can travel back to the past and embrace that lonely, helpless inner child; I can tell myself that I don’t have to be perfect at every moment.