Have you noticed how you feel like the world is full of all kinds of damn resistance, and like you don’t even know what you want to do—feeling like you have no direction? In fact, it’s because ever since you were little, you’ve had your life arranged for you again and again by other people. You’ve had no sense of self, no agency. You’ve gotten used to listening to other people’s answers, but you haven’t built your own; you’ve gotten used to accepting arrangements, but you haven’t trained your ability to choose. So when life finally asks you to make decisions for yourself, you get lost—because you’ve never truly become the master of your own life.