There’s something I’m not sure if I should say, but I think—if a guy’s situation is really bad, and I mean really bad (if you’re well-off, this doesn’t apply to you). If a guy’s situation is really bad, like short, poor, ugly, with a bad family background, then basically if he marries and has kids, his wife and children will suffer with him. Even if they’re bullied, he won’t be able to stand up for them. Then it’s worth considering avoiding marriage, so as not to let down even more people.

It’s one thing if a guy is in a bad situation himself, but dragging a wife and kids into that bad situation makes it truly bad—especially for the kids. In the crypto community, you often hear people say the ones they’ve let down most are their family. Parents are something you’re born with, so there’s no choice but to let them down. But a wife and kids are your own decision. Since you already know that adding one more family member means one more person to let down, it’s best not to add any more—life will be much cleaner. A man should have self-awareness early on and plan his life properly. He must never just go with the flow, muddle into marriage, and then let down even more people.

Times are different now. Avoiding marriage is much easier than before. Simply put, if you stay far away from your parents and relatives when you’re young, you can just tough it out for a few years—like moving to another city to make a living, or even going abroad to wander for a few years. Your parents won’t see you and won’t pressure you. By the time you meet again, you’ll all be older, and you just take good care of your parents. Once they’re old and sick, having you around is enough for them—they won’t have the energy to pressure you anymore.

If that still doesn’t work, find a girl far away for a fake marriage, video call your parents to comfort them, and after a few years say you got divorced—then everyone will stop pressuring you. It’s like the writer Sanmao back then—she said she married someone in the Sahara Desert, then said her husband drowned while diving, and that was that.

So, while your parents are still young, a man should find a way to go far away and see the world. It’s good for both him and others. $BNB
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