Falling in love is actually about developing a certain ability.

Many people think that love depends on feelings, luck, or meeting "the right person."
But the more realistic situation is: a long-term stable relationship is essentially a set of skills.
First layer: Sense of security (attachment style)
Can you relax in the relationship, rather than being anxious or overly dependent?
Not relying too much, nor escaping too much.
If this layer is unstable, the relationship can easily turn into tugging and draining.
Second layer: Emotional ability (awareness + empathy)
Can you understand your own emotions?
Can you understand why the other person is sad or angry?
It's not that there are no emotions, but that you have the ability to handle emotions.
Third layer: Communication and conflict management
Can you argue without hurting each other?
Can you clearly express the "problem" instead of attacking each other?
A good relationship isn’t one without conflicts, but one where conflicts turn into understanding.
Fourth layer: Growing together
After being together, are you both improving, or are you draining each other?
The best relationships are where both parties add value, not drag each other down.
Fifth layer: Responsibility and commitment
A truly long-term relationship relies not on passion, but on choice and persistence.
It’s “I am willing to be responsible for this relationship.”
To sum up in one sentence: love isn’t about finding a perfect person, but about two people continuously upgrading each other's abilities.
If a relationship encounters problems, instead of asking “Is it because I don’t love anymore,”
It’s better to ask: which layer are we stuck on?