Human Defense Guide Against Breach and Self-Protection:

1. Recognize "Triggering Insecurity Points": When the other person always precisely mentions your sensitive or insecure areas, they are likely deliberately provoking your emotions. Protection: Distinguish facts from attacks, do not take others' evaluations as self-definition.
2. Recognize "Denying Core Values": When the other person belittles the abilities, identities, or efforts you value most, attempting to shake your self-identity. Protection: Establish a stable self-evaluation system, do not rely on a single external approval.
3. Recognize "Emotional Disregard": Using phrases like "You're getting anxious" or "You've broken your defense" to deny your feelings. Protection: Acknowledge the rationality of your emotions, do not be swayed by the other person's language.
4. Recognize "Public Humiliation": Exposing your shortcomings in front of others, causing you to lose balance due to social pressure. Protection: Set boundaries promptly, leave the scene if necessary, avoid ongoing depletion.
5. Recognize "Malicious Comparison": Repeatedly comparing you with others, reinforcing the implication that "You can't do it." Protection: Reject meaningless comparisons, refocus on your own growth.
6. Recognize "Misinterpreted Motives": Deliberately distorting your intentions and labeling you negatively. → Protection: Clarify once, do not fall into a cycle of repeatedly justifying yourself.
7. Recognize "Rehashing Old Issues": Constantly bringing up past failures or embarrassments, creating ongoing psychological pressure. Protection: Clearly state that the past is over, do not accept indefinite blame.
8. Recognize "Praising First, Then Pressuring": Giving praise first, then suddenly denying it to create a gap. Protection: Be cautious of excessive praise, observe if actions are consistent.
9. Recognize "Depriving Expression": Using phrases like "You're not worthy" or "What do you know" to block your opportunity to speak. Protection: Avoid entanglement in ineffective communication, choose to exit or switch the communication environment.
10. Recognize "Magnifying Fear": Deliberately amplifying your fears of failure, abandonment, or the future. Protection: Return to factual evidence, avoid being led by emotional narratives.