The wedding is done, and I gifted my wife a pink castle. Life is stepping into the next stage!

After being busy for several days, I finally have time to quiet down and reflect. I feel there is so much to express, and I think it is worth recording. These are more of my thoughts on marriage.

1️⃣ A wedding is like a large team-building event for two families, where everyone gets involved to do one thing together.

Although it is a wedding for two people, it is supported by the efforts of all family members from both families.

So I am really very grateful and even moved by the efforts and contributions of my family in participating in this wedding.

The cohesion of the entire family seems to have strengthened, and indeed, life events such as births, deaths, and marriages are the spiritual bonds of the whole family.

Marriage is also a very important link in a person's social relationships.

Life and death are things that one clearly cannot perceive, but marriage is a direct participation where one is the main character.

Such opportunities are really rare, with classmates and friends we haven't seen for many years gathering together.

Family and friends come from all directions and leave in all directions.

After sending them away one by one, the noise returned to silence, and instead, there was a sense of loss.

But this is life, isn't it? Everyone's life is a line, converging somewhere, and then continuing to different directions.

It seems that nothing has changed for everyone, but in reality, some things have quietly changed.

3️⃣ Why get married?

I think everyone will ask themselves this question.

For me, I cannot completely break away from traditional social orders and concepts, which may be my biological instinct and also my social subconscious.

Moreover, when it is inconsistent with the universal social order and concepts, the cost is actually higher, and one will face more pressure and resistance.

So I chose the simplest path: to study hard, work hard, get married, and have children.

4️⃣ So at what stage will we get married?

I think there are two kinds: one is impulsive, and the other is a natural progression.

The former directly enters the next stage during the passionate phase, while the latter takes a step forward only after enough time has passed for adjustment.

Looking back at my decision to get married, it is clear that I am the latter.

At my current age, there is a tendency to pursue a stable lifestyle, which is really very different from when I was in college and just graduated.

More importantly, in an intimate relationship, it is very important to provide each other with a sense of certainty and security, and marriage is naturally an important form of this.

What does it feel like to be married?

At the wedding venue, in that atmosphere, during the formal and solemn ceremony, I was naturally very moved, and my wife also cried twice.

After the wedding, the first thing I felt was the deepening intimacy between the two of us; we are really together now.

Life is continuous; it doesn't start from one point and suddenly become completely different. The continuation after love is really familial affection.

Next, I will continue to feel it with my heart!

Overall, this is my current view on marriage. People's perspectives are fluid, and I will continue to document my thoughts and ideas.

Finally, I would like to thank Sego @EvanCrypto17 for being my best man, and also Teacher Haotian @tmel0211 for attending my wedding.

Of course, there are many friends and teachers in the industry that I couldn't invite or have participate, but along the way, there have been friends who have helped me a lot. Here, I would like to thank all the teachers and friends once again 🙏