A person who is tolerant of themselves will not be harsh on others. Those who are self-forgiving tend to be more accepting of others, which is not a moral constraint but rather an extension of a profound psychological mechanism. From a psychological perspective, the relationship one has with oneself often forms a prototype for their relationship with the world. Individuals who can be tolerant of their own mistakes and limitations typically internalize a more supportive inner object relationship. They do not base their self-worth on external achievements or the recognition of others, and thus, they project less anxiety onto those around them. In contrast, those who are hard on themselves often have an internal "harsh critic" that not only targets themselves but also unconsciously shifts towards others. How a person treats themselves often becomes a filter through which they interpret the actions of others. People with a high degree of self-acceptance are more likely to understand others' motives with kindness and empathy, while self-blamers tend to view the surrounding world with doubt and scrutiny. Those who treat themselves kindly have greater emotional resilience and more empathetic resources to truly understand the predicaments of others. This consistent emotional pattern aligns with the object relations theory of the inner parent and inner child. A person who can treat themselves gently often internalizes a healthier caregiver image, which enables them not only to self-soothe but also to provide emotional support to others. They do not need to deflect their self-denial pain by blaming others, nor do they fall into control or criticism due to their own anxiety.
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A person who is tolerant of themselves will not be harsh on others. Those who are self-forgiving tend to be more accepting of others, which is not a moral constraint but rather an extension of a profound psychological mechanism. From a psychological perspective, the relationship one has with oneself often forms a prototype for their relationship with the world. Individuals who can be tolerant of their own mistakes and limitations typically internalize a more supportive inner object relationship. They do not base their self-worth on external achievements or the recognition of others, and thus, they project less anxiety onto those around them. In contrast, those who are hard on themselves often have an internal "harsh critic" that not only targets themselves but also unconsciously shifts towards others. How a person treats themselves often becomes a filter through which they interpret the actions of others. People with a high degree of self-acceptance are more likely to understand others' motives with kindness and empathy, while self-blamers tend to view the surrounding world with doubt and scrutiny. Those who treat themselves kindly have greater emotional resilience and more empathetic resources to truly understand the predicaments of others. This consistent emotional pattern aligns with the object relations theory of the inner parent and inner child. A person who can treat themselves gently often internalizes a healthier caregiver image, which enables them not only to self-soothe but also to provide emotional support to others. They do not need to deflect their self-denial pain by blaming others, nor do they fall into control or criticism due to their own anxiety.