When you reach the age of 40, you will understand that the deepest bottom line of life is ultimately selfishness and loneliness. We used to be so afraid of the word selfish, desperately exchanging contributions for recognition and maintaining relationships through compromise. Until one day, we realize that those we had to tiptoe to reach were never prepared to bend down for us. The truth of life is that others come to you because the light on you can illuminate their path, and turning away is just finding a brighter light source. Allowing everything to happen is not about passively resigning to fate, but about reclaiming the control of the world back into our own hands. Allow friends to drift apart because the time spent together sincerely has already fulfilled its mission. Allow giving without return because the joy in giving is the immediate reward. Even allow illness to visit because the body uses pain to remind us that we owe ourselves too much rest. When you no longer cling to being understood, you can truly understand yourself; when you no longer crave to be filled, you begin to become whole. It's like standing in the wilderness, finally admitting that the wind is inherently transient, and thus learning to build a wall to shield yourself from the wind. Dear you, cultivate chrysanthemums in your own world and let the clouds roll in and out in others' worlds; this is not indifference, but awakening, nor is it giving up, but a different kind of courage. Dare to admit that ultimately, you have to walk the long road alone. Therefore, use the energy spent on pleasing others to nourish yourself, turn the hands that reach out into arms that embrace yourself, and place your hand on your heart, telling yourself, "You have worked hard on this journey." In our lifetime, what we should learn most is that no matter how great the storms we encounter, we have the ability to make ourselves happy. Birth is something you cannot choose, marriage sometimes depends on luck, and the only thing that can help you live this life well is the ability to adjust your emotions. When the wind comes, listen to the wind; when the rain comes, listen to the rain. Although this world seems complicated and chaotic, in essence, it is still a world of your own.