When you scold, reject, humiliate, or even use violence to force your child to obey when they are young, and they become “obedient” out of fear, what you have actually trained them to do is submit to the powerful, retreat from conflict, and doubt themselves when faced with evaluation. When they grow up and enter society, they simply replace “parents” with bosses, authorities, partners, and the judgment of those around them. Conversely, when you support and encourage them, allow them to express different opinions, let them make their own choices and decisions, and have them bear the consequences of those choices, what you are cultivating is agency, a sense of boundaries, self-confidence, decision-making ability, and a sense of responsibility. What education truly shapes has never been merely whether a child obeys today, but the posture with which they will face the entire world in the future.