I saw some words today that really resonated with me.

Make a note:

1. Never feel inferior.

Never feel that you are inferior to others; how much money others have or whether they have money at all has nothing to do with you.

In life, many people have too much "servility"; when they encounter someone who is better than themselves, or even just someone who pretends to be impressive, their courage diminishes instantly. But it’s important to understand that many people who seem glamorous are actually just "dung beetles with shiny shells," merely superficial.

To judge whether a person has real ability, don't just look at what they wear, drive, or eat; the key is to see the circles they are in. If they are in a high-level circle, there's a good chance they have substance; if they only have a flashy outfit and a so-called luxury car to show off, then nine times out of ten, it's just for show, and their pockets are definitely emptier than their face.

You don't need to feel inferior; you are always your unique self. Have faith in your own value and don't be fooled by the superficial halos of others. Live confidently as your true self.

2. Never care about anyone's opinion of you.

Especially for those who are not related to you, their suppression, disdain, ridicule, and jealousy are just fueling your mental exhaustion. If you take these people's words seriously and overly care about their opinions, it's equivalent to giving away the initiative of your emotions, leading you into the abyss of internal struggle, being dragged along by negative feelings.

Wang Yangming had long understood this principle: the core of controlling emotions is not to take them too seriously. Being overly concerned about others' opinions and fixating on someone's evaluation will only trap yourself, making you passive and awkward. Understand that, aside from life and death, everything else is trivial. Human hearts are complex and unpredictable; do not expect to please everyone, and do not let the malice of others, who do not want to see you do well, hinder your ability to live a good life.

3. When working, you must not get too deeply into the role.

The essence of working is, first, "getting paid for doing a job," and second, "learning and growing from others." Don't cling to the short-term recognition given by your position, nor should you hold onto the idea of "staying here to retire." Focus on the goal of "accumulating resources and understanding the rules, then either getting promoted or changing jobs," and move forward. Don't lose your way just because of a few compliments from colleagues or superiors, forgetting what you should truly pursue. It’s definitely not okay to just coast through the days, but blindly holding onto a battle without direction for growth is what truly leads to mediocrity and wasted time.

4. To have multiple sources of income

In addition to your main job, it's essential to cultivate a skill and develop a side business. There is no absolute "iron rice bowl" nowadays; having an additional income is like adding another layer of "insurance" to your life. If you happen to lose your main job one day, your side business can help support you, allowing you to handle life more calmly and not panic financially.

5. Always remember that time is有限的.

Ask yourself how old you are, and then think: are those few seconds of unhappiness brought by others really worth affecting your mood for a long time? Try to recall what happened on the evening of August 1, 2018, and June 26, 2020; chances are you won't remember clearly, let alone those "nonsense" that made you unhappy at that time.

This means that many worries naturally dissipate over time; don't let trivial matters constantly drain you. When people get older, they often regret "not doing the things they wanted to do when they were young," rather than "the things they have done." Therefore, one must learn to "look long-term," and timely do things that make you happy, focus on what you love, and make life more meaningful.

What is optimism? It is seeing through the frustrations and trivialities of life, which may be full of annoying things, but even though one dislikes these bad parts, they still choose to love life itself.

6. Eliminate the Three Types of Weak Mindsets

- Kindness should be paired with wisdom; do not give blindly: Being kind to good people can earn gratitude; however, kindness without sharpness towards bad people will only give them the "confidence" to do evil. Therefore, kindness must come with a bit of "wisdom"; you need to protect yourself and not let your goodwill be wasted. Only then can you navigate through a complex society steadily and for the long term.

- Have a correct view of money, don’t be afraid to talk about it: Economic strength is the "solid backing" to withstand life's storms. Working hard to earn money does not mean you worship wealth, but rather that having money allows you to have fewer moments of "being forced to bow your head" and more freedom to choose your life. Don't get tangled up in whether "rich people are really happy"; at least for now, having money can help you solve problems more calmly and deal with life's unexpected events.

- Losing a loved one, don’t lose yourself: The worst thing in life is not losing the person you love, but completely denying and giving up on yourself because of that loss. Learn to accept that "changes are a normal part of life"; it's okay to feel sad, but don’t let it defeat you. Remember, no one can bear the pain for you, only when you become stronger can you confidently say: "I will respond to you the way you treat me," and take back control of your life.