Don't let close friends crash at your place for more than a week.
People's sense of boundaries is elastic. Once time stretches on, friends will gradually push closer to that boundary. This is the most tense and dangerous period in a relationship.
I let a good buddy stay at my place for two weeks, and increasingly I'm feeling resentful—"eating my food, using my stuff, and still talking trash about me." Fortunately he's leaving this weekend, or I'm worried we'd actually end up fighting.
An important but rarely discussed matter:
Don't let close friends crash at your place for more than a week.
People's sense of boundaries is elastic. Once time stretches on, friends will gradually push closer to that boundary. This is the most tense and dangerous period in a relationship.
I let a good buddy stay at my place for two weeks, and increasingly I'm feeling resentful—"eating my food, using my stuff, and still talking trash about me." Fortunately he's leaving this weekend, or I'm worried we'd actually end up fighting.