How do parents destroy their children at the bottom?

When you were young, they suppressed you,
Grow up and be more confident.
When you were young, you were told not to compare eating and dressing with others,
When you grow up, you shouldn't compare yourself to others and say that you have no ambition.
When you were told not to fall in love early during your studies,
As soon as you graduate, they urge you to get married soon.
Childhood requires straightness like Hai Rui,
Growing up requires flexibility and cunning like Qin Hui.